Your happiness is truly in your own hands! Here are 10 things you need to start doing for yourself right now to be a better you!

1. Learn How to Say No

You cannot please everybody and it’s okay! Saying yes feels so much simpler, but is it really? Not everyone is worthy of getting a yes from you especially if they are never there for you when you need them. Simply doing the opposite does not make you a selfish person, it just makes you courteous to your own feelings. If you say yes all the time and really feel yourself not being invested in it then when it comes down to the end result you could come off rubbish or sometimes even flaky. When you release the power of no a weight will be lifted off of your shoulders.

2. Ask for It

Have you been on the job for years and still haven’t got the promotion you think you deserve? It’s time that you ask for it instead of waiting for it! You have to remember that asking for something you feel like you are entitled to is completely normal, but you must go at it with a smart approach. Practice your pitch and demonstrate your accomplishments before you make a move. Keep in mind that you need to go in their knowing that you deserve it rather than just needing it.

3. Seek Help

Your mental health is very important and needs to be in good condition for you to truly be happy. Whether it’s depression, suicidal thoughts, or any other mental illness that is bringing you down you must seek help now! So many people refuse to go this route because their pride won’t let them move on and some others feel like they can do it themselves. If you consistently feel yourself becoming unstable and unhappy then reaching out to a psychiatrist, friend, or loved one can truly save your life.

If you or anyone you know is suffering from depression then please reach out to PsychCentral. This website provides a list of number for adults and youth battling with depression. There is help out there you just have to seek it.

Seeking inspiration? Read my latest blog post How Pain Blocks Inspiration for tips on how to get inspired.

4. Put Your Passion to Work

Do not let your passion go to waste! Start jotting down ideas and brainstorming and turn your passion into a career or hobby. Studies have proven that when you are passionate about a certain thing that you will excel in it. Having a hard time finding out what your passion is? To some it may come naturally but for others it may involve some digging. Find out your passion here by taking a short quiz at Goodnet.

5. Smile More


Did you know that smiling can trick your brain into happiness? We all have natural chemicals that can cause happiness! These chemicals are:

  • Dopamine – Causes motivation and a take charge attitude!
  • Seratonin – Gives a feeling of importance.
  • Oxytocin – Builds trust and intimacy.
  • Endorphins – Produced through levels of laughter.

Do something today that will make you smile.

6. Read A Book

Reading can stimulate brain activity and growth of knowledge. Not only does it make you more intelligent but it also improves concentration and helps you understand more. I compiled my top 2 favorite books for self-help and stimulation of mind:

“Hollis’s writing is beautifully blunt, and she humbly thanks her fans for her success. Her actionable ideas and captivating voice will encourage women to believe in themselves.” – Publisher’s Weekly (starred review) “I believe we can change the world. But first, we’ve got to stop living in fear of being judged for who we are.”


7. Eliminate Negativity.

It’s time to do some serious cleaning up in your life and by that I mean it’s time to eliminate negativity and increase positive outcomes. There are certain people that are in your life that don’t even deserve a spot. There are also some things you just can’t let go of because you want to hold on to them for as long as you can knowing that it is not for you. That friend that is always putting you down to make herself look better, eliminate.  It’s time to be happy and reduce bad stress!

8. Walk Away

Having the last word and constantly arguing your point does not need to happen. Sometimes silence is the best medicine! Learn to walk away when you feel feelings of frustration taking over. It’s better to say nothing at all than saying very hurtful things that can’t be taken back. Once the damage is done…it’s done! Don’t let others take you out of your character to the point where you don’t even know who you are anymore. Walk away!

9. Drink More Water

The one thing many of us forget to do on a daily basis. The human body must sustain at least 8 cups of water each day, sometimes even more depending on your weight. The WaterCalculator can calculate how much water you should be drinking daily by your weight, age, and activity level. Water has so many health benefits and can easily get your energy restored. Get you a water bottle that can keep track of how many cups you have drank for that day like the ones below.

10. Reward Yourself

Have you had your eye on something you want to purchase but just haven’t gotten around to it? Or Is there some place you always wanted to visit but just don’t have the time? Well that day should be today. Take a drive somewhere close by or go purchase that new purse you been keeping your eye on. Reward yourself when you complete an accomplishment or when you have reached a goal. Make deadlines and achieve them as you go, the reward will be so fulfilling in the end!


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5 thoughts on “10 Things You Need to Start Doing for Yourself Right Now

  1. Learning how to say no is SO important for black women. We’re often expected to care for everybody but ourselves, so I’m glad you’re mentioning how important it is to stand up for ourselves.

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